" THE ATTRACTION "

If you had another chance to love what would you do with it? A lot of us always ask for that, but when it's there opening for you, would you really know what to do with it? Would you move forward with someone new? or take back someone from the past?

Maybe you'll see someone waiting for you at the corner of the street. Maybe your life will change for good when you see someone beside you every time you wake up. Maybe not. I always hear the broken hearted say " the best part of me was you... so how can I move on?"

I say maybe you need to change that thought, perhaps look into the mirror and say that to you. Make the best part of your life YOU. Maybe after that you will love you more and that heart might just start to listen to your brain for once.

Most of us are jaded after all these failed relationships. Too numb that it blinds us, too blinded by the past that even when the future sat on your face you wouldn't have noticed it.

We try to find someone with the idea of maybe this will inspire me and make me happy. Why not fall in love with your dreams instead? Why not fall in love everyday? I once told a friend that the reason why I really like Paris is beyond it's architectures, it's the people I see there... getting broken hearted today and falling in love again tomorrow. No one holds an aching heart for longer than 20 hours. Maybe because they know that the only way to fix it is to like someone again. Maybe because after all the failures this one will work out.

I am no expert in relationships, In fact I have failed a few. Maybe because I have learned to value it more when I lost it, so the next chance I get will be an improved version of my romance.

MAYBE is a fragile mirror with 2 faces - The Yes face and the No face. With all honesty, I never got anything out of the "No Face", it got more of me. Maybe the reason why people get another chance is 'cause of the "Yes face".

Life in general should be all about Yeses. Maybe it's a formula. Thomas Jefferson once talked about the pursuit of happiness and wrote it on the declaration of independence. Maybe because freedom is a part of happiness and maybe 'cause happiness is a process and not a goal.

Maybe, just maybe you'll wake up and your heart will be ready again to pursue what really makes you happy, and maybe if everyone does that, the whole world will be like Paris. Knowing that a heart break will always lead you to someone new and that when you keep pursuing what your heart really wants, maybe... just maybe you will be whole again.


Fin.

- Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging
(Extraverted Thinking with Introverted Intuition)
The Executive

As an ENTJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENTJs are natural born leaders. They live in a world of possibilities where they see all sorts challenges to be surmounted, and they want to be the ones responsible for surmounting them. They have a drive for leadership, which is well-served by their quickness to grasp complexities, their ability to absorb a large amount of impersonal information, and their quick and decisive judgments. They are "take charge" people.

ENTJs are very career-focused, and fit into the corporate world quite naturally. They are constantly scanning their environment for potential problems which they can turn into solutions. They generally see things from a long-range perspective, and are usually successful at identifying plans to turn problems around - especially problems of a corporate nature. ENTJs are usually successful in the business world, because they are so driven to leadership. They're tireless in their efforts on the job, and driven to visualize where an organization is headed. For these reasons, they are natural corporate leaders.

There is not much room for error in the world of the ENTJ. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings. ENTJs, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, ENTJs naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as the ENTJ. The ENTJ needs to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people's opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people's feelings. In the absence of this awareness, the ENTJ will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual. This may be a real problem for the ENTJ, who may be deprived of important information and collaboration from others. In their personal world, it can make some ENTJs overbearing as spouses or parents.

The ENTJ has a tremendous amount of personal power and presence which will work for them as a force towards achieving their goals. However, this personal power is also an agent of alienation and self-aggrandizement, which the ENTJ would do well to avoid.

ENTJs are very forceful, decisive individuals. They make decisions quickly, and are quick to verbalize their opinions and decisions to the rest of the world. The ENTJ who has not developed their Intuition will make decisions too hastily, without understanding all of the issues and possible solutions. On the other hand, an ENTJ who has not developed their Thinking side will have difficulty applying logic to their insights, and will often make poor decisions. In that case, they may have brilliant ideas and insight into situations, but they may have little skill at determining how to act upon their understanding, or their actions may be inconsistent. An ENTJ who has developed in a generally less than ideal way may become dictatorial and abrasive - intrusively giving orders and direction without a sound reason for doing so, and without consideration for the people involved.

Although ENTJs are not naturally tuned into other people's feelings, these individuals frequently have very strong sentimental streaks. Often these sentiments are very powerful to the ENTJ, although they will likely hide it from general knowledge, believing the feelings to be a weakness. Because the world of feelings and values is not where the ENTJ naturally functions, they may sometimes make value judgments and hold onto submerged emotions which are ill-founded and inappropriate, and will cause them problems - sometimes rather serious problems.

ENTJs love to interact with people. As Extroverts, they're energized and stimulated primarily externally. There's nothing more enjoyable and satisfying to the ENTJ than having a lively, challenging conversation. They especially respect people who are able to stand up to the ENTJ, and argue persuasively for their point of view. There aren't too many people who will do so, however, because the ENTJ is a very forceful and dynamic presence who has a tremendous amount of self-confidence and excellent verbal communication skills. Even the most confident individuals may experience moments of self-doubt when debating a point with an ENTJ.

ENTJs want their home to be beautiful, well-furnished, and efficiently run. They're likely to place much emphasis on their children being well-educated and structured, to desire a congenial and devoted relationship with their spouse. At home, the ENTJ needs to be in charge as much as he or she does in their career. The ENTJ is likely best paired with someone who has a strong self-image, who is also a Thinking type. Because the ENTJ is primarily focused on their careers, some ENTJs have a problem with being constantly absent from home, physically or mentally.

The ENTJ has many gifts which make it possible for them to have a great deal of personal power, if they don't forget to remain balanced in their lives. The are assertive, innovative, long-range thinkers with an excellent ability to translate theories and possibilities into solid plans of action. They are usually tremendously forceful personalities, and have the tools to accomplish whatever goals they set out for.

Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Extraverted Thinking
Auxiliary: Introverted Intuition
Tertiary: Extraverted Sensing
Inferior: Introverted Feeling

I rarely give reviews on books because I rarely get impressed with them. In this new world filled with new thoughts comes a book that will move your understanding of faith. I have read the Secret so many times and have been practicing the law of attraction since I was 10, however when I thought I knew exactly what I needed to do to advance my life, then came a bigger challenge.

George Sison’s ‘A Miracle awaits you’ will walk you through a new vision of life which allows you not just to reinvent your perspectives of the different faces of yourself but also how you look at others. It is a guide and a beacon of light for all who have no fear to exercise their inner power.

Back in the days majority of the human race would normally tell everyone else that the only thing true about the world is that it came without a manual, Thank God those days are over. Re-create your life anytime anywhere. There are books now that can walk you through it, and this I have to say is ONE of them.

This is one of my favorite dinner recipes! ...also a breakfast idea below.

If you've never tried spaghetti squash, it's delicious and it's also a great alternative to pasta, since it's much higher in nutrient density and MUCH lower in carbohydrates. So you get MORE nutrition and less calories and starchy carbs which are just contributing to your abdominal fat.

My favorite way to eat spaghetti squash is to bake it and scoop the spaghetti like textured squash out and then top it with tomato sauce with veggies mixed in, and grass-fed bison sausage. It's a great healthy dinner that's so much lower in carbs than eating a belly-stuffing plate of pasta.

If you've never baked a spaghetti squash before, it's simple... you just cut in half, take out the seeds, and lie the cut sides down in a big baking dish, and then put about an inch of water in the bottom of the pan. cover and bake around 400 or so for about 75-90 minutes depending how big the squash is.

Then you just use a fork to scoop out the squash and it comes out in spaghetti-like strands.


*My 2nd favorite use for spaghetti squash:

Now you've had your spaghetti squash, sauce, and bison sausage dinner and you still have tons of leftover spaghetti squash.

Perfect! Now you have a great healthy breakfast by throwing a layer of spaghetti squash into a pan with some virgin coconut oil and cooking scrambled eggs into the squash. I tried this a couple weeks ago and was blown away how good it was! This was my favorite breakfast for at least 3 days in a row while I finished the leftover squash.

I just added a bunch of seasonings to the eggs and spaghetti squash mixture and it came out really good. Use your creativity with this one on the seasonings.

For you to achieve that intellectual maturity in Life? Understand this rule:




1) You do not need to prove anything to anyone in this life.




Once this is absorbed, you will live your life without fear and doubt, no more worries, no more paranoia.





You make or brake your own life, not anyone else.



End of story.

Dear God,


If you'll be watching in Church tomorrow I will show you my new blue shoes.


P.S.

If you could also put Jenifer Smithk in another camp next month that would be good coz she always picks on me.



Thank you.


Denis Boyl - 1st grade

   Mr. Narayana Murthy is undoubtedly one of the most famous persons from Karnataka. He is known not just for building the biggest IT Empire in India but also for his simplicity. Almost every important dignitary visits InfoSys campus. He delivered an interesting speech during an employee session with another IT company in India. He is incidentally, one of the top 50 influential people of Asia according to an Asiaweek publication and also the new IT Advisor to the Thailand Prime Minister.

Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy's Speech during Mentor Session:

I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary.

Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I do not know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this
long.

Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace. Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors.

My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue.  Correcting these mistakes requires their time as
well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who are not
working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much
better when people work together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office.

First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours.

His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:

1) Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2) Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3) Go home.
4) Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5) Eat well and sleep well.

This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2.

Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them.

In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit was, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss some thing. Once our visitors' left, he would go to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they do not want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening.. That is life! Things happen 24 hours a day.

Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.

Up until 1955, Sigmund Freud's psychoanalysis had been the dominating influence in the field of psychology. Then in 1955, Albert Ellis started a revolution. He discovered that the real reason his clients were upset had nothing to do with their childhood (as claimed by Freud) but had everything to do with their beliefs.

Ellis found that when he got his clients to 'unlearn' some of their irrational beliefs, and replace them with rational ones, they very quickly got much better. With this discovery, Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was born!

Interestingly, Ellis discovered that his clients all shared a number of similar beliefs. These same beliefs are the ones that hold most people back from reaching their full potential, and restrict their personal development.

As you read through the beliefs, you'll undoubtedly recognize that they are irrational, and you'll probably think that you don't believe them. And there is the trap. When they're pointed out they seem obvious, but rest assured, at least one of these beliefs, if not all of them, has at some time stunted your personal growth.

The good news is that each belief has a rational alternative. If you convince yourself of the truth of the alternative, you'll very quickly unleash your full potential.

Let's now examine some of the common irrational beliefs that Ellis discovered:

1. It's awful and I can't stand it if I look foolish or if people don't like me. I mustn't do anything that would make people look down on me.

Being afraid of looking foolish is perhaps the biggest obstacle to most people's personal growth. Fear of being looked down on keeps you from doing the things you want to do with your life. You are under the influence of this belief when you say things like:

• I'd look like a complete idiot if I did that.
• I would never do that in public.
• I wouldn't be seen dead in that outfit.
• What will people think?
• I get so nervous when people are watching.
• I'm afraid of rejection.

If fear of disapproval is holding you back, remind yourself of this rational alternative: Much as I'd prefer it for others to like me I don't need their approval. I can live happily and fully without their love and approval.

2. My personal worth is based on how well I do things. Therefore, I must do everything well. If I make a mistake, or do poorly it proves how worthless I am. I must not fail.

Fear of failure is the second major obstacle to personal growth. Because you believe that your personal worth is on the line, you decide not to take any risks. As a consequence you remain stuck in the same rut day after day. Fear of your own incompetence keeps you from doing the things you want to do and living the life you want to live. This belief is at work when you say things like:

• I don't know why I even bothered trying.
• I should have done better.
• There's no point trying.
• That just proves what a dummy I am.
• You do it, I'll watch.
• I'm not good enough.

If fear of failure is holding you back, remind yourself of this rational alternative: I don't have to prove myself to anybody, especially myself. Although I'd like to do well, I don't have to be good at what I do.

3. It's awful when things are not the way I'd like them to be.

Not all of your hopes and dreams will come to fruition and your life will frequently not go according to plan. But whining about it won't help. When you tell yourself that a situation is awful or terrible, you make it worse than it already is by exaggerating the inconvenience. No matter how disappointed you are, it is not the end of the world. When you convince yourself that you can't stand the situation, you invariably waste time and energy upsetting yourself about it instead of doing something constructive towards your personal development. The following statements are typical of people whose whining has derailed their personal growth.

• I can't stand it!
• This is intolerable.
• That's terrible.
• Oh, my God.
• If she does that one more time, I'll scream.
• Will it ever end?
• It's not fair!

When you complain about how awful 'it' is, all you're doing is making yourself miserable. You can learn to accept life's troubles without letting them get in the way of your personal development by reminding yourself of the rational alternative: It's unfortunate when I don't get what I want, but it's hardly the end of the world. It won't kill me.

4. I can't help feeling the way I do. My feelings are the result of what is going on in my life.

Most people feel upset or stressed when things go wrong in their lives. That's natural. But it makes no sense to continue feeling that way long after the event has passed. As Epictetus pointed out 2,000 years ago, we make ourselves upset by what we tell ourselves. You can change the way you feel by changing the things you say to yourself. Brooding over your misfortunes prevents you from getting over the past, and from getting on with enjoying the rest of your life. The belief that you can't help your feelings is widespread, but it's false. You can see evidence of the belief in each of these statements:

• It hurt me when he called me names.
• It's all my mother's fault. She raised me poorly.
• That song is depressing.
• She made me so angry.
• He makes me happy.
• How did that make you feel?
• They upset me when they behave that way.

You can stop being a victim and start taking control of your emotional destiny. When you weigh yourself down with bad feelings, lift yourself up again with this rational alternative: I can change the way I feel by changing the things I say to myself. I'll feel better the minute I stop telling myself nonsense.

5. People should always do the right thing. When they do the wrong thing, it proves that they're no good, and they should be made to suffer.

Whenever you find yourself getting angry with someone – including yourself – it's a sure sign that you're buying into this belief. You tell yourself that there is a difference between right and wrong, and that everyone should observe that difference and stick to what's right. Getting angry is a waste of your valuable energy that could be better spent on doing things that you enjoy and that keep your blood pressure down. You're under the influence of this belief when you say things like:

• I'll fix your wagon.
• She had no right to do that.
• He got exactly what he deserved.
• That S.O.B.
• You shouldn't have done that; it was wrong.
• It's all my fault. Can't I do anything right?
• How dare you?
• Up yours.

When you find yourself wasting energy by getting angry with someone, remind yourself of this rational alternative: Life would be better if people made an effort to do the right thing and act more kindly towards one another – especially towards me – but there's no law of the universe that says they must.

6. I can't stand discomfort, therefore I shouldn't have to put up with it.

Getting the most out of life takes effort. First, you must decide what you want, and then be willing to pay the price. Telling yourself that you can't stand discomfort and hassle, indicates an unwillingness to pay the price, and leads to a mediocre existence. If you find yourself continually avoiding responsibilities or spend a lot of time idly loafing instead of doing the things that will create a better life for yourself, then there's a good chance that you're buying into this belief. Here are some typical statements from discomfort-dodgers:

• It's too hard.
• Can't we park closer?
• I shouldn't have to put up with this.
• But it's cold and dark outside.
• This traffic jam is too much.
• Can't we do something easier?

When inconvenience and hassle stand between you and your goals, remind yourself of the rational alternative: There's seldom gain without pain. I can tolerate this discomfort, although I may never like it.

7. I need someone stronger than myself on whom to depend or rely.

Friends and family can often be a source of comfort and support. But if you tell yourself that your personal development is dependent on them or other outsiders, your growth will be less than optimal. While you may find it helpful to turn to others, exclusive reliance on them or on a higher power will eventually sabotage your ability to handle your own challenges. The key to be on the lookout for is anything that indicates the word 'need.' The following phrases are examples of over-dependence:

• A man needs a woman.
• I can't cope without him.
• When things get hard, I rely on the Lord.
• If my father were still alive, he'd get me out this jam.
• I need you.
• I can't do it alone.
• What'll I do if she leaves me?

It makes sense to get help when you can, but it makes no sense to regularly tell yourself that you need others. If your growth is stalled or delayed because you're overly dependent on others, tell yourself this rational alternative: Life's easier when I have someone to help me, but I don't need them for every hassle that comes my way. With effort, I can do it alone.

These are the 7 beliefs of highly ineffective people. By replacing them with their rational alternatives, you'll be ready to soar!

Scribbles of Wisdom:

Always have a Plan B. What will you do in a worst case or at least a bad scenario?

I pilot almost crashed Maxwell's Lear jet right after having an imbalanced landing... as soon as he touched the ground and smashed its wheels, the pilot flew the plane back on air to regain its balance and landed again. This time, he landed right.

Then he was asked? When did you make this decision? I mean to fly a plane back on air when it was right about to crash and burn? you only had 10 seconds there... when did you decide to snap out and fly it back and save us?


and the Pilot answered... I decided 20 years ago... I figured you can only regain balance when you're up there and not on the ground. I trained myself to do that 20 years ago in case a bad landing happens.


So its always essential to be prepared for the tough times in our life for being unprepared is not a valid act of a leader.



Learn From your experiences: A crisis shouldn't be experienced twice... when that happens, it only means that you didn't learn anything from the 1st experience.

Sometimes you Win, sometimes you learn :

The Greatest lessons in our life are learned not during the success and happy moments, they are learned during the toughest times in our life.


GE's 6 laws of Leadership:


1) Control your Destiny or someone else will.

2) Face reality as it is.

3) Be Candid with everyone.

4) Don't Manage. Lead.

5) Change before you have to.

6) If you don't have the competitive advantage don't compete.


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Always be helpful to others...

Instead of competing with them help in completing them: This will add value to you for all.


6 vital questions to test your dreams. 1st ofcourse this will not work when you do not have one.


1) The ownership - Is my Dream really My dream?

Will you buy it? are you willing to invest in it?


2) The Clarity - Do I clearly see my dream?


3) The Reality question - Am I depending on factors within my control to achieve my dreams?

  - Use gifts within your control and talent that you have and you know you're good at.

 - When passion and your gifts match? you have a masterpiece.


4) The Passion question - Do i feel compelled to achieve my dream?


 Your dream should be your passion - Nothing will motivate you more than passion.

- Passion will get you to receive things that people without passion will never receive.


5) The People question - Have I included the people I need to achieve my dream?


  - the only way you can compound success is with the help of the essential people - through teamwork, Dream works.


6) the cost question -  Are you willing to pay the price?  you have to give your all but you don't have to sell your soul.

As you pursue your dreams keep your feet on the ground.




Action Plan:

List 5 things you need to do to get you closer to your dreams and start with it today. Do these 5 things Everyday.

If your dream and goal is to be able to write a book then your five things daily could be:

1) Read

2) Research

3) ask questions and answer them

4) Write

5) File


The Secret of your success is Determined by your daily agenda.


Understanding Changes our mind but its the actions that changes out lives.


- END.

“Theory of Flight”

 

How can one life make a difference? What will complete you? How do we fly and reach the state of heaven?

 

Too many questions asked but what does matter at the end of our lives? Is there a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? Or will the pot of gold even matter at the end?

 

Some say its un-attachment to things that can give you that inner peace. Some say it’s having someone to love and love you back, to some it’s looking at the long list of their accomplishments, to some it’s their family. I can go on and on and on… and these angles telling us how we can be in the state of completion will keep contradicting each other. I think it’s because these are all opinions from different writers from different worlds. A peanut may not look as tiny as it is to an east African boy, and vodka may not taste as good as the Russians say it is. We of all creatures walking on earth, of all entities all over the galaxy, among all planets and solar systems… We of all beings know what’s best for us. Why pattern your life to a Czech philosopher or to a Chinese monk? When in fact we are all made to be creators! We are here to fill the SPACE with ideas.

 

Ideas that will make us all find that inner freedom. That drive, that ecstatic happiness from being complete. So where do we begin? Now here is my theory:

 

For you to able to defy gravity you need to 1^st find that inspiration. That purpose, 'Purpose' in definition means "the reason for being". After you’ve established your purpose, you need to surround yourself with the right forces. You see a plane will not fly without the right amount of speed, velocity, light, direction and balance. We may not be machines but these sciences were derived from human behavior.

 

Surrounding yourself with the exact energy force you need. To a human being, we get all these from the people we choose to be around us… always. You see when we interact with another human being, a spark happens. There is presence of lots and lots of different kinds of energy, and there is an exchange of energies and forces. You absorb, and the one you are interacting with is giving and vice versa, depending on who’s the stronger magnet and who’s the stronger influence.

 

Choosing the right friends is crucial to ones happiness. Forces are contagious, so choose the one that will complement your flight. It is always a mystery, how people from different worlds create this bond of friendship? How specific can that be? How precise can the timing be? How measured can the chemistry be? It's amazing  to see people with different experiences and from different walks of life blend like h20.

 

So to cut the long theory, find the right friends who can boost your confidence and give you the right amount of laughter you need in the time left you have on earth.
2^nd, Find your inner self. We call it our ELEMENT.

 

Be in your Element, surround yourself with other elements that will complement it and right there… you will rise my friend.

 

The state of heaven starts here on earth. So don’t look so far away… it’s not up there… Heaven is inside you. Find it and be in it for the remaining days of this very short life. Yes, before you know it, it’s a Tuesday again. Your time is ticking… Do not waste any second dwelling on the energies that can make your flight heavy… no one wants to crash and fall apart.

 

Your element will be your map (SEE THE WORLD by heart), laughter will be your fuel, Friends will be your engine, and you will be the wings. Your emotions are your passengers.

 

Destination: Happiness.